Traumatic Effects of Ghosting

What Is Ghosting? Ghosting is abruptly ending communication with someone without explanation. The concept most often refers to romantic relationships but can also describe disappearances from friendships and the workplace. As humans we go through so many different experiences in our lives, and depending on our experiences or being a highly sensitive person (HSP) we can experience ghosting as a very traumatic event. This does NOT mean that you are broken! There is nothing wrong with you! Here are some common signs that you may be experiencing trauma after being ghosted:

·      A belief being ghosted confirms you aren’t “good enough,”

·      You can’t stop trying to figure out why the other person ghosted you and even potentially trying to diagnosis their mental health or attachment issues,

·      Feeling anxious because you believe that being ghosted means you will be single forever,

·      Non-stop talking (or thinking) about the person who ghosted you,

·      Fantasizing about confronting them or revenge,

·      You believe that you can change their mind,

·      Waiting for them to return because, deep down, you believe if you’re patient you are destined to end up together, and,

·      Criticizing, or attacking, yourself for doing something “wrong” which led to the ghosting

As mentioned in the podcast - how to manage the traumatic effects of being ghosted:

·      Please stop blaming yourself

·         Allow yourself the space to experience your grief

·         Do not wait for closure from the ghoster

·         Focus on your own wellness – self care, self love, etc

·         Remain open and receptive to healthy connections

·         Don’t be afraid to see a therapist

 As mentioned in the podcast here is the link to learn your attachment style: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz